Ever have those days where you have so much to do, not enough time, and everyone, everywhere needs something from you? Overwhelmed, not even sure where to start? We all have those days! There is so much expected of women. I mean we are all super heroes right?! Some days you have to take off your cape and just be. I don’t have all the answers but I do have life hacks for the busy woman that can help your life run smoother.
Spoiler alert! There is no award given out to the perfect mom/wife/woman. No one is perfect, and neither are you so stop trying. Sit down and figure out what tasks are “must do’s”. What do you absolutely have to get done today? Once you figure out what’s most important, rock that! Don’t try to fit everything in on one day and expect it to be perfect. Focus on doing one thing perfectly instead of trying to be perfect at everything.
Order The Pizza!
One day I felt overwhelmed. Kids. Life. Work. The feeling of always trying to be perfect. It was just too much. My hubby got home from work, saw my face, and stepped in. I told him I needed him to take care of dinner and I went and took a shower. See, I’ve learned to take care of me, communicate to my husband my needs. Guess what happens? He shows up for me. Every time. I take care of myself. Taking care of me makes me a better, mother, wife, friend, leader. So order the pizza, take care of you. You are worth it!
Celebrate every small victory. Did you drink your coffee hot today? You go girl! Get the laundry put away? Get an order in your small business? Get to work on time? Manage to feed yourself and not just your kids? You go girl! Celebrate! When you take a moment to focus on what you HAVE accomplished each day, your mindset will shift. You’ll realize just how much you have gotten done and that overwhelming to-do list might just seem a little less important.
You don’t have to have it all figured out to move forward, just take the next step. Do you ever feel stuck? Scared to move forward? A goal too far from reach? Stop trying to figure it all out and take a small step forward. Figure out what the first step is and take it. If you don’t move, you’ll never get there. Breakdown that big goal into little steps, then move. Take the first step. Breaking things down into smaller tasks, smaller goals, makes those big goals more attainable. So…. move!
How many times have you thought “I can’t do that?” How many times have you focused on what you’re not? I know I struggle with this myself. I was the girl who didn’t believe. I let my insecurities stop me from doing things because I feel like I won’t be good enough. It’s time for all of us to stop focusing on what we are not, and start believing that we can. Believe in yourself! Tell that voice inside your head that is telling you that you aren’t good enough, not a great wife/friend/mom to HUSH! You are a Queen! Fix your crown Mama!
As women we try and take everything on all by ourselves. I am sooo guilty of this! Over the past few years I’ve learned what my strengths and weaknesses are. I’ve also learned that an area I may be weak in, is one of my sisters in my business strengths. We can’t all be good at everything! I’ve been part of some incredible projects over the past few years by collaborating with others. Collaborate with others in your business. Lean into your strengths and let others help you with your weaknesses. The same goes for you at home. My kids have wanted to help fold towels but they didn’t “fold them the right way” so I would go and redo it or say “I’ll take care of it”. Does it really matter how the towels are folded if the towels are folded and put away? No. Does it really matter if the dishwasher is not loaded in a Tetris precision? No. The chores and tasks around the house can be done by others. You can’t be perfect, don’t expect perfection in your home either. By letting others in your home help, you get a break, they get to share a part of that heavy load you carry each day. Put it down Mama! Collaborate!
Self care isn’t vanity, it’s sanity. You have to stop, relax, and take care of you! Taking a shower is not a luxury, it’s a necessity. Take a bath, turn off your phone, or call a friend, use your favorite face mask, paint your nails, listen to music, your favorite podcast, put some essential oils in your diffuser, whatever makes you feel relaxed. You can not be your best self if you aren’t taking care of yourself! Make yourself a priority. If you don’t self care, you’ll self sabotage.
I do not have life figured out by any means. I have learned being overwhelmed, a perfectionist, trying to be everything for everyone does not work. The biggest takeaway I hope you get from this- Grace. Give yourself grace. You can’t do it all, so stop. Let yourself fail, get back up again, and take care of yourself. You are more than worth it!